Sexual intercourse should always be pleasant. But it is not so when you begin to feel pain and dryness at the beginning of intimacy with your partner. There are several causes for it. Among them, not being sufficiently aroused or are having the mind elsewhere. In addition, there are other factors that may be disturbing the sexual encounter with your partner. Let’s analyze some of them.
It is the most common cause of a painful sex, something that 2 out of 3 women ever experience, and it is not pleasant at all not to be well aroused at the time of the encounter with your partner. Your body is not designed to have intimacy unless it is well aroused. Little arousal may be due to insufficient foreplay, hormonal disorder, alcohol, depression, stress, or certain medicines.
Solutions for these uncomfortable moments, when making love to your desired partner, depend on both of you. Be creative with your sensuality so that your partner can release all that adrenaline that he brings inside. If a medication is responsible, try a lubricating gel. Consider going to therapy if you feel depressed. And if you think the problem is in your relationship, see if there are underlying conflicts, or if you just need to lengthen the preliminaries or experiment with new moves.
If you feel pain, irritation, discomfort when urinating, you can have a sexually transmitted disease like herpes, genital warts, human papillomavirus (HPV)or chlamydia that can be causing a very strong vaginal or urinary tract infection. There are many symptoms which can vary depending on the infection or the sexually transmitted disease that can have infected you thus intensifying and exacerbating the discomfort with much more pain.
How can we proceed to cure these infections?
Certain infections, such as vaginal ones, can be cured with non-prescribed medicines. But unless you have had one before and know what medications to use, go to the gynecologist. He will perform a test to see if you have an STD and indicate to you the right treatment. Do not ignore the symptoms; pain during sex, accompanied by stinging, redness, slight swelling, burning or, at least, burning sensation.
It can be skin irritation
The skin around the vagina is very sensitive and there are different products that irritate it; deodorant soaps, detergents, sanitary pads, and scented pads, Nonoxynol 9 from many spermicides, and edible lingerie. Also, some women are allergic to condoms and diaphragm latex. Reduce suspicion by keeping a record of the products you use, or discarding the possible causes one by one.
Solutions to soothe the irritation
Cold compresses are very helpful; cortisone creams are also very helpful, but do not apply more than 1% of cortisone or put anything in the vagina without asking the doctor first. If there is an allergic reaction, antihistamines may work, but also consult your doctor. In general avoid any product with aromas or deodorants near your genitals including soaps, tampons, bath salts, and perfumes.
It can be vaginismus
This condition is characterized by a strong contraction of the vaginal muscles and which in turn causes involuntary and strong muscle spasms or intense pain during intercourse. Vaginismus can be caused by trauma during childbirth, surgery, endometriosis (when uterine tissue grows outside the uterus), chronic infection of the urinary tract or psychological problems such as anxiety, stress, or traces of sexual or emotional abuse.
Vaginismus is treatable
Different exercises and relaxation techniques can gradually decrease the pain cycle, including muscle control exercises in which the pelvis contracts and relaxes repeatedly and with insertion training that starts with a tampon or fingers and leads to sex. Psychotherapy may help but experts emphasize that physical and behavioral techniques often work on their own.
Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
It is an infection of the upper part of the genital tract (uterus, fallopian tubes, and cervix) that can be caused by a sexually transmitted disease that has not received treatment. Once the disease is diagnosed (PID), it can be completely cured with antibiotics. But prompt treatment is crucial because antibiotics cannot reverse the scars or adhesions that have occurred in the reproductive organs.