Valentine’s is over and if you’re reading this, you probably didn’t have the best day. Maybe that date wasn’t what you expected or maybe you didn’t have a date at all. Either way, you wish yesterday didn’t happen at all or thought of it as any other day.

Why do we care about Valentine’s day anyway? It’s just another day in the calendar and it’s corny. We sometimes may think that it’s another one of those days where people spend a lot of money. Even if that’s true, it doesn’t solve the fact that you’re not doing too well on relationships. There’s something wrong when we make the same mistakes and we don’t know why that happens.

So, this guide is meant to help those persons that crash and burn over and over again in love. It’s nothing to feel bad about, like with everything in life, it’s all about learning. We just have to change our current mindset on how relationships work. When we finish, you’ll have a few things to think about and after some practice, things should start changing for you in love and life altogether.

10 Tips for a better Valentine’s (and a better life)

1. The problem starts with ourselves. This can sound a bit rough, but unless a meteorite falls from the sky, we’re responsible for everything that goes on our lives. So, admitting that the problem starts with us is a big step, leaving pride aside is never easy. Nevertheless, it paves the way for a better version of ourselves.
2. Check your relationships with your family. If you want to change the world, better start at home. It’s the same with relationships, tie loose ends with your parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, whoever it is. Our parental relationships are especially critical because in most cases they are our main influence in life. This means that we tend to think and act the way that they do. If we can love and accept our family members, we’ll instinctively seek similar persons that make us feel like it’s home.
3. Pay attention to details in persons. Most relationships start with physical attraction, two people see each other and is love at first sight. While that sounds romantic, it’s not smart if you don’t actually get along and end up hating each other’s guts. Love is trial and error, but you should narrow your likes and dislikes on persons. That can save you a few bad dates and some bad moments.
4.  Avoid troublesome persons at all costs. Love is a necessity – physical and mental one – and you’re looking to solve that, not add another problem. You can pinpoint troublesome persons by noticing their constant complaints without solutions. Avoid relating to persons like this at all levels, these things can snowball into undesirable situations.
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Don’t know who do you like? Check your mom and dad. Remember what I said about influence? In the long run, for better or worse we seek people that are like our parents. Subconsciously they make us feel safe and secure, so look for the persons that give you that kind of feeling.

relationship? Well, let’s turn that around and it’s completely valid for good things as well. If we give little presents, take the initiative and are ahead of things and show small signs of love. These can make sure that the relationship is healthy and alive through many years.

It seems like a lot of work to do!

They are, if you feel overwhelmed about doing every one of these tips, it’s completely normal. You can start with anyone of these tips – whichever you like better – and incorporate others as time goes along. Try them out, even if you manage to do only one, you’d end up being a better person than you were yesterday. Isn’t that what we came here for? To improve and live the best we can.