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    Parable # 48: So the Concert Was a Disaster

    A Parable by Donald Lee

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    (This week is the 51stinstallment of the book, โ€œThe Band Directorโ€™s Lessons About Lifeโ€, which TCRN is publishing as a series during 2020. This week, band director and spiritual author Donald Lee relates a parable about handling failure productively. For a complete listing of previous episodes in this series, click here.)

    Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success.

    J.K. ROWLING (British novelist, best known for the Harry Potter series)

    โ€œYour performance last night was not your best,โ€ I understated.

    That created an uproar in the band room. The grade-nine band had performed terribly. It was embarrassingโ€”not the worst performance of my career, but pretty close. Everyone had an excuse and someone else to blame. I let them vent for a while before trying to bring some orderโ€”maybe even learningโ€”to the situation.

     โ€œWhoa. Letโ€™s hear one at a time.โ€ I raised my hand for silence. Eventually the room became quiet enough to carry on.

    โ€œGwendolyn, what did you say?โ€

    โ€œDonkey Riding was a disaster! The trumpets came in at the wrong time, and then the saxophones were offbeat. I got so confused I just stopped playing!โ€ she said, exasperated.

    โ€œWell, the trombones forgot to repeat, so I thought we were just going on,โ€ whined Peter, my lead trumpeter.

    Chaos erupted again. The trombone players defended themselves and pointed fingers elsewhere. It was a disaster in more ways than one. Once again, I raised my hand for silence and waited. Finally . . .

    โ€œPeter.โ€ I tried my best to be gentle, but I felt dejected, and Iโ€™m sure the students had picked up on it. โ€œWho are you supposed to follow? The trombone section?โ€ Peterโ€™s mouth opened for a moment, then frozeโ€”his excuse stillborn on his lips. Then he slumped in his chair and cast his eyes downward. Peter understood how the band was supposed to work. All of them did. Now the expectation of more chastisement brought a pall over the band.

    โ€œAll of us performed poorly last night, including me, and all of us share the responsibility for our poor performance. We are a bandโ€”a team. We have both individual and collective responsibilities. Each of us affects the whole, and our effect is supposed to be positive. Last night, it was mostly negative. And this morning it still is. Blaming others is always negative. You only have the power to make positive changes in yourself.

    โ€œI chose music that was too difficult for you. I try to challenge you with music that is interesting, rewarding to play, and demands your best effort. However, if you donโ€™t put forth your best effort, then the goal I set for you is out of reach. So not only must I decide what you can do, I must decide what you will do. You could have learned this music, but you didnโ€™t. So I made a poor choice. What about your choices?

    โ€œAsk yourselfโ€”donโ€™t say it out loud, just think about itโ€”in the weeks leading up to our concert, how much effort did you put into learning your own parts? How often did you take your instrument home and actually practice it? Did you ever come to the band room at lunchtime to get help from me or a classmate? Did you ever get together with your section to practice? These are all things you can do and should do. None of these ideas is new to you.

    โ€œWe start today to prepare for our next concert. Step 1 is to figure out how to do better than last night. Weโ€™ll play these pieces again. Youโ€™ll get another chance to learn your partsโ€”and to make music with them. Today we take the first step toward our next goal.

    โ€œBut we need to change what we do if we want a different result. How many of you think you could take your instrument home and practice it at least once in the next week?โ€

    Just about every hand in the room went up.

    โ€œGood. Thatโ€™s what I thought. But thatโ€™s what I thought when I selected the music. You and I both know you can practice your instrument. The real question is will you? So now, with a show of handsโ€”honestlyโ€”how many of you will take your instrument home and practice in the next week?โ€

    Since I was haranguing them, most hands went up. Humbled and a bit contrite as they were, I got an improved commitment to prepare better for our next concert.

    Reflection

    Our success in life has a lot to do with how we handle failure. Life is always a process of two steps forward, one step backโ€”sometimes the other way around. Life never seems to move in a straight line for long. How we manage lifeโ€™s setbacks largely determines whether we rise to new heights or kill ourselvesโ€”figuratively or literally.

    Failure tells us we have to change something in ourselves. Whatever we didโ€”it didnโ€™t work. Like J.K. Rowling says in the opening quote of this parable, we have to use our failure to figure out what we need to change in ourselves. Was our goal too big? Our vision too far off? Maybe, but more likely our effort and commitment flagged. All of us know what we need to do to move forward in our lives, but sometimes we donโ€™t actually do it. There are those who will help us if we seek their help. We can even seek professional guidance from our โ€œBand Director,โ€ but the answers will be found withinโ€”as will the courage to change.

    After reflection comes redirectionโ€”setting new goals, starting new habits and new ways of thinking, and creating a new vision of ourselves. What will you choose to become now? How will you achieve your vision? Will you actually use your past failures as a springboard to your future success?

    Failure is a learning opportunity. The bigger the failure, the more we can learn. We must change ourselves to change our outcomes.

    Donald Lee is a spiritual author and speaker. This article is part of a weekly series for 2020 in which TCRN is publishing his inspirational book, The Band Directorโ€™s Lessons About Life: Volume 1 โ€“ 50 Parables on Lifeโ€™s Performance Cycle, in serial form โ€“ one parable per week. You can learn more about the author at his website: www.ComingHomeSpirit.com, or order a copy of his complete book on Amazon, or get his free mini eBook and sign up for his weekly blog. Follow Donald on Facebook.

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